Parenting

Feeling Alone as a Parent? Here’s What to Do

Parenting is not easy and as we answer the demands, cries, and needs of our children we can be unaware that we are suddenly feeling alone in our parenting role.  This can be more difficult when we feel disconnected from our partner or even ourselves and significant friends.  When left unchecked, isolation in parenting can lead to burn-out, exhaustion, and difficulty regulating our own emotions.  Parents can become aware of isolating feelings by recognizing these important warning signs. Continue Reading

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Understanding a Child’s World

Sandcastle Gulf Shores, AL, Dean Wisdom 2014

I love children’s sandcastles.  I took this picture on a sunset stroll with two of my daughters on a family vacation in Gulf Shores, AL.  We spent several days just hanging out on the beach and doing fun stuff.  A beach draws a lot of families because parents can get some sun while kids play right in front of them.  Kids get lost in building sand castles, finding shells, and swimming.  This sand castle drew our attention.

Children don’t have the cognitive development like adults yet to talk about what’s going on for them so instead they play out their many thoughts and feelings.  This can be frustrating for us parents because our kids act and react sometimes in ways that we don’t understand.  This causes us to react in ways that later we regret or just feel like we missed the mark. Continue Reading

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“Daddy, how fat is the Bible?”

I knew we were in trouble when I heard her question.  It was dinner, we were all together at home eating the assortment of baked chicken, spaghetti, raw carrots and ranch sauce, pizza, sweet potato, ketchup, and asparagus my wife and I put together.  The question is no reflection on her, I wouldn’t use a blog post like that.  I just thought, “Oh no.  That is the most boring question I’ve ever heard about God.  What am I teaching my kids about God anyway?”

Back up a few minutes.  We’re “plating” – ha!  I like that, like we’re on Chopped or something.  Anyway, Jill and I are plating the food.  And I think, “Talk to them about doing this diaper drive thing.  Read something from Luke and tie it in.”  Plating, plating.  Somewhere between the ranch and the pizza I decided, “Naw, I haven’t studied that passage good enough, I need to be sure before I say anything.  Need to do it right.”  I had been reading Luke some mornings and loved the fire under Luke for writing his letter to just one person. Continue Reading

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Baby Bootie Diaper Drive

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Is your baby’s bootie covered and clean?  Some families in Collin County can’t afford diapers.  The  Baby Booties Diaper Bank is a non-profit organization that distributes diapers, wipes, and cream to needy families in Collin County.  I will be hosting a diaper drive right after spring break leading up to Easter.  If this is something you might consider giving to, please bring by diapers (sizes 1-4 especially size 4), sealable wipes, and/or creams to my office at 6309 Preston Rd., Suite 1200 in Plano.  The marquis on the building reads “Premier Foot & Ankle” – I share office space with my wife Jill who is a podiatrist.  Or you can contact Baby Booties Diaper Bank directly at the number listed on the website link.

I think this is a great way for me and my family to get out into our community and serve others in a practical way.  I really hope you can join us!  Be looking for additional stories and posts on the Drive.

© 2014, Dean Wisdom

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Custody Issues – Kids in the Middle

Handling custody issues with an ex-partner is one of the toughest things parents face.  There’s a lot at stake including time with your child, their overall well-being, and your sanity.  Today I’ll be addressing one area – when kids get caught in the middle and three things parents can do to help.

Sadly, a child can become almost symbolic of the original fight between former spouses.  That tension gets pushed down, usually unintentionally, onto the child.

First, be aware if you see your ex-spouse in your child.  This can be challenging when a child looks like their other parent or has the same temperament.  Parents find themselves over-reacting to behavior problems in their child because it triggers a stress memory from their previous marriage.  Kids can only view our actions as directly related to themselves and don’t have the personal resources to understand a parent’s triggers. Continue Reading

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Andrew

Play is a child’s language.  Play therapy gets to the heart of what is going for a child and helps parents understand what they are feeling.  If your child or someone you know might benefit from this kind of therapy, please contact me.  I am a Registered Play Therapist (RPT) and the only male RPT in the Plano – Frisco – Allen – Richardson – McKinney area.  See what Andrew thinks in this great video from the Association of Play Therapy.

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Something New at The Daddy Daughter Dance

Had a really great time with my four daughters at the Frisco Daddy Daughter dance tonight.  My wife Jill put a lot of work and thought into selecting their dresses and shoes as any Mom would know how much time it takes to find an affordable and pretty dress for a dance as well as shoes that fit and feel right on their feet.  Such an individual choice of course.  And it was no small task getting them ready with the hair and a few accessories.  She also arranged for us to have dinner afterward with some friends whose girls are in my daughter’s grade at school.  Every dance is special, this was our third.  Tonight, something new happened. Continue Reading

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Our Self-Esteem as Parents

In my earlier post I talked about building up self-esteem in our children, today I want to focus on us as parents.  So, how are you doing today?  On a scale of 1-10 (10 being highest) how would you rate your own self-esteem as a parent?  For many of us I can anticipate the blank stare off into space… with visions of laundry, bills, and to-do lists dancing around in our heads.  There’s just no room for thinking about self-esteem.  Wherever you are right now, take a deeeep breath, relax the tension in your body for just a moment.  Have you thought about your self-esteem today?  What have you done that might build up your own self-esteem?  Yes, you’re normal.  For many parents we focus on building up our kids and leave the last if any for ourselves.  And sometimes even less for our partners (more on that in my next post this Friday).  But what we can do for ourselves is not just important for us but for those around us – how we feel about ourselves directly affects all our relationships.  The same simple steps for building esteem in our kids applies to us parents too… Noticing, Tone, and Belief. Continue Reading

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Building Self-Esteem in Children

Here’s the main deal:  Because life is a series of small, incremental steps, attempts, and tries – self-esteem is built up or torn down the same way.  As parents we sometimes make the mistake of thinking that it’s the big events that can get our children ahead in the esteem curve.  Or, if our kids could just learn the big lessons in life, then that would help them too.  While the big events in life are important, as well as the lessons, children are better acquainted with normal and daily experiences – and it is our response to them that seems to matter. Continue Reading

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Family Vacations – Balloon Glow at Steamboat Springs, CO

(c) 2014, Dean Wisdom
(c) 2014, Dean Wisdom

I just returned from a 5-day ski trip with my wife and children and extended family to Steamboat Springs, CO .  I snapped this picture on the last night – catching the Balloon Glow at the base in Mountain Village.  Watching the balloons fire up with rock music going was great and several runs on the mountain were lit up for night skiing.  The weather was perfect this past weekend – sunny clear skies and lots of powder.  This is one of our favorite annual vacation spots.  I thought I would include this trip in my post today to zero in on the importance of vacations. Continue Reading

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